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Are you flying by the seat of your pants? That’s a good thing. Here’s why.

Published 3 months ago • 1 min read

Put Your Energy Where It Matters Most


Dear Reader,

I often feel like I’m flying by the seat of my pants. I’m still figuring out how to be a good parent, and I am in a never-ending process of learning how to be a better therapist.

We are all winging it in some way or another.

There’s a Buddhist principle I find useful when riding my growth edge: Knowing and Not Knowing.

First, get to know yourself. Familiarize yourself with your unhelpful patterns. Learn to spot the thoughts that pull you off track. And get to know your personal strengths and values. Questions you can ask yourself:

  • What unhelpful patterns do you keep getting stuck in?
  • What thoughts hook you?
  • What’s important to you, and what do you want to use your energy for?

Second, allow yourself to not know. Set yourself free from needing to have all the answers. Allow for creativity and grace to come to you on their own time. Questions you can ask yourself:

Wise Effort is about getting to know yourself, discovering what works for you and what doesn’t, and being willing to try new ways of being. In this week’s podcast, we explore this practice of Knowing and Not Knowing in ​a real play with Danish psychologist Rikke Kjelgaard​.

You don’t have to have it all figured out; winging it can be a good thing when you wing it with intention.

Many blessings and more good to come.

Diana Hill, PhD

Your psychological flexibility guide


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What Patterns do you need to break?

In this real play, Rikke Kjelgaard demonstrates the key questions you can ask yourself to start to get unstuck from unhelpful patterns.


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